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Hope Is More than Optimism

We typically consider a hopeful person to be the same as an optimistic person, but hope is something more. Dr. Kendra Thomas explains:

“In conversation, ‘hope’ and ‘optimism’ can often be used as synonyms. But there’s an important gap between them, as psychology research suggests.”

I did a podcast episode about hope when I interviewed David Williams, former CEO of the Make-a-Wish Foundation. But I really barely scratched the surface of the research. Here’s a glimpse of what more there is to say:

“Hope is stronger than optimism at predicting academic success and people’s ability to cope with pain. Plenty of scientific evidence suggests that hope improves individuals’ health and boosts their well-being.”

Hope is not the same as optimism | The Conversation

$1000 per graduate, but they give half away

Last month, billionaire Rob Hale gave $1,000 to each graduating student at U Mass Dartmouth, on the condition that they also donate $500 to a cause of their choice.

Based on my observations, habits of charitable giving precede rather than result from wealth. It would be fascinating to track these students to see if this one event encourages a higher level of lifetime giving.

Huddling under ponchos and umbrellas at the soggy ceremony, the graduates yelled and cheered, their mouths agape, as Hale announced he was showering money upon them. Security guards then lugged the cash-filled duffel bags onto the stage. Hale told the students each would get $1,000. But there was a condition: They were to keep $500 and give the rest away.

Billionaire gives UMass graduates $1,000 each with condition they must give half away | AP News

What Happens When You Pray for Your Enemies

Do we pray for those we love, or does prayer cause us to love them? Perhaps both, but the 18th Century Anglican priest, William Law, taught the latter with elegant prose.

For there is nothing that makes us love someone so much as praying for them; and when you can once do this sincerely for anyone, you have fitted your soul for the performance of everything that is kind and civil towards them. This will fill your heart with a generosity and tenderness, that will give you a better and sweeter behavior than anything that is called fine breeding and good manners.

Pray for Those Annoying People | Plough.com

We Make Ourselves Miserable with Anger

If we only see the negative all around us, we make ourselves miserable. And what’s more, we’ll be less likley to take action for good.

Matthew Yglesias writes about this in a now-free post on his Substack. I recommend reading the whole thing, especially if you’re uncomfortable with the accusation that you do too much doom-scrolling. It’s not that you should avoid bad news, but that you shouldn’t drown yourself in it.

The main thing that has actually changed is that the media landscape has become much more competitive and people (yes, people like you) prefer to click and share on negative stories. So a lot of people spend time doomscrolling, amping up negativity on their social media feeds to maximize engagement, and propagating a worldview that says the best way to be a good citizen is to engage in performative sobbing or raging.

Negativity is [still] making everyone miserable

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